What You Need: A hat (or small jar or bowl), small pieces of paper, and a pen How to Play: Each of you will write down fantasies you have yet to share with your partner, be it having sex in a certain part of the house or trying out a new position.
Put the slips of paper into the hat, then take turns unfolding them, one by one.
It's scary at first, but if he's gentle you will not get nicked. Why: Even though guys know what they see in porn isn't realistic, you'd be amazed at what a little one-time novelty can do for your sex life.
Variation: Shave yourself without telling your partner, and let him discover what you've done.
(You failed to take your coupons to the grocery store.
You'll be surprised by how much slowing down changes things. Then proceed to ravish him — slowly, recklessly, teasingly — however you feel like doing it. Either one is a powerful aphrodisiac (maybe you've heard of You need: Four neckties, or more elaborate restraints available at sex-toy stores or online; a bed, preferably one with bedposts.
You get really creative and You need: A scarf, necktie, or a blindfold. How to play: He ties your wrists and ankles to the bedposts and has his way with you.
Why: Most busy couples have foreplay down to a science, or rather, a routine.
"Time Bomb" refocuses you on the pre-game show, the part that used to be so much fun before you lived together. Why: Not being able to see during sex has two major effects—it dramatically increases both sensitivity and psychological vulnerability.
How to play: Spread your towel on the bed or carpet and grease each other up with massage oil — legs, torso, breasts, everywhere. But if you have a non-irritating lubricant, greasing up the sexual equipment can be part of the fun.