You knew some men struggle with this; you just didn’t think it would be your man. We lied, thinking we were protecting you from a situation we couldn’t handle on our own.Always thinking we’d get clean, we just needed a little more time.The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.You can’t watch as they smile, and that smile spreads up into their eyes and transforms their face into one of the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen – a thing that warms your heart and makes you realize you want to spend more time with the person. Unfortunately, the reality is nowhere near that fantasy.But the lies still hurt and the problem still grew–and damaged–like a cancer. Maybe it was expected, but you really didn’t think it was this bad.And when he told you, or more likely, when you found out–he turned it back on you.
The two services used by these individuals were OKCupid and Match.com, two of the largest and most popular dating websites on the Internet.
I saw that some of your interests were the same as mine,” or something along those lines.
Also, some of the messages I got were from a few guys that ranged from early 40’s to late 40’s and I was maybe 19 at the time.
Even though they were well-meaning, many of them had no idea how to respond without blaming her indirectly. We have become a tool in the hand of the enemy to destroy you, our marriage, and our family. It will take years to undo this damage, and you will continue to have doubts. At times, you will feel like all of the cards are stacked against you.
We thought we were better men than this, but the truth is we are selfish beyond reason. Many of the resources available to you will tell you how you’re co-(something), another way of saying you’re to blame.
To get some insight into what women go through on these dating websites, I pulled aside one of my family members who I knew had spent some time on these sites looking for her future spouse.