' I think the decision about whether or not to disclose, or when to disclose, really depends on the nature and maturity of the relationship,' Imi adds.' If the person you're dating is mature enough to share this with you then it can be a really good enhancer and bring you really close together.She suffers from anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), and says the obsessive spirals have made dating a huge challenge over the years.' One little incident can trigger a whole panic,' she explains.It's ok to gain emotional support and understanding, but if you lean on them to rescue you from how you feel, that's going to make the relationship tough,' she says.
' You push yourself away from people because you think you don't deserve a relationship, and you compare yourself to others a lot.' Her current (and first) relationship 'just happened' without any pressure or expectation: ' I just thought we were best friends,' she laughs.
We asked psychotherapist Imi Lo from Eggshell Therapy how young women dealing with mental health issues can make romantic relationships work for them.
' If you're dating someone and you do struggle with these emotional whirlwinds, it's important to take good care of yourself, rather than constantly leaning on the other person.
But when you're affected by a mental health problem, those highs and lows can be all the more intense.
Nisha* is 22 and has suffered from severe depression and anxiety since childhood.
But Imi says recognising and acknowledging these needs is a really important part of self-care: ' You may have to say "I don't want to go to crowded places" or "I don't want to stay up late, or have a drink, because it makes me end up feeling crap" – it's ok to assertively express those needs, and it doesn't make you any less desirable.