As someone who grew up in the home of divorce, it’s entirely worth it. Who wants to read a novel about my boundary-filled, healthy life?I know neither of my parents said “I do,” thinking someday they would live separately and drop their kids off at each other’s houses. I wish healthy marriages were written about, talked about, filmed around… About a couple making a meal together at night in their home, planning the month’s budget, investing their lives in their jobs, friends, Church, and community…? But that’s because it’s only boring to the outsider. Mumford & Sons sings it like this (told you I’m cool): (Sigh No More, Mumford & Sons) Love sets us free. In a paranoid, nervous relationship, you are placed in a hopeless cage of anxiety and guilt. Want to join us & pass this along to other women in your life?This actually quickly became a requirement when looking for a potential job.One of my internal “required” questions was, “Could I be friends with his wife?The very thought of a romantic relationship with any of them made me feel nauseous.So why was I getting a speech like I’m the other woman?
A wise person told me once that no one is above an affair. When we become invincible in our minds, we let lies seep in, ignore our intuition that quietly says, “mayday! If you’re thinking by now that I have surely lost my mind, that I wear jeans up to my bra, and that I haven’t had my hair styled since 1996, you’re wrong. I teeter on the edge of hip (can you be hip and use the word “teeter? Trust, loyalty, and promise win out over the flesh. May: What No One Told Me About Marriage June: Body Image & Beauty July: Let's Talk About Sex Some More August: From The Men: What They Want, Need & Love September: Making The Most Of Being Single October: Dating: Mistakes I Made November: Pornography December: What I Learned In 2011 January: Emotions: What Do I Do With Them?
But I also have seen firsthand boundaries have been conducive to growing MORE love and trust between my husband and I – and isn’t that how it should be?
I have to admit, I cringed a little bit reading this. I want to trust everyone, love everyone, and think the best of everybody.
Therefore, the more a woman knows how a guy flirts with body language, the greater her chances of picking up when a guy is actually interested in her.
Of course, knowing how to tell when a guy is flirting is an important skill to have, especially if there is mutual attraction.
Because my job lends me to work with more men than women, one of my “boundaries” is to intentionally befriend the wives of men I work with.