But we can't be pro-active unless principles are established. I hope and pray the words from this post will spark further conversations in your ministries, relationships and homes.
That would make God a gambler, and the Bible clearly says gambling is from the devil (only joking). Look, marriage isn't as much about finding someone totally compatible as it is about committing to someone despite difficulties and differences."The one" says you need to find the perfect person.
You might get into a relationship with someone who loves Jesus, meets the values you have in a future spouse and is compatible with you. Just end the relationship and continue to seek the Lord. Again, please don't be a freakish weirdo and give Christians a negative label. My wife loves the Lord, and I can say with all certainty I wouldn't be following Jesus without her. Pull over at the closest gas station and decide what you want in a future spouse. Your list is designed to give you a framework for dating, not be a checklist for it. Your heart and the holiness of marriage are too important to flippantly give away because you are frustrated, impatient or settling.
But once you get into the relationship, you realize things aren't as they seemed. Having coffee or going to eat dinner with the opposite sex is not dating. There will be days when life is crashing down, your faith is wavering, and the only thing left will be your spouse. In this scenario, your spouse is there to pray for you, put his or her arm around you and walk with you. It's dangerous riding on the road to marriage without an idea of where you are going. Don't sit someone down on the first date and interview them to make sure they meet all of the qualities.
Comments from family about a future husband and kids never used to bother me. But I’ve gotten, and still get, a general sense that everyone around me just assumes I will date, someday, and more than likely get married, someday. Sure, I would like a lifelong partner; I don’t like being alone for very long periods, and I get the sense I may always be that way.
I’d chuckle, wonder briefly about having a husband and kids, wonder if I wanted kids—but I was never bothered. What I’m saying is , and in the context of my very traditional community and family, I feel a bit—out of place, perhaps. And sure, I would like to have that kind of intimate connection with a man.
These 10 dating rules could change your future for the better. It is time for Christians to start talking about dating. Church, this issue shapes our young people, friends and family more than we could ever imagine. "Let's just sit back and see what happens" might work in certain scenarios, but Christian dating isn't one of them.