You feel more interesting, more confident, and more valuable.
It forces you to see yourself under new light and, in turn, helps you realize how you truly are." At the time this sentiment resonated with me.
The last thing I told my friend was this: All in all, I never want my search for a suitable man to mean that I stop looking for qualities that really matter. I am a woman who knows what she wants, and I think that's a good thing.
Every girl deserves a good guy, but let’s be realistic–there’s only one Ryan Gosling, and he’s not available to most of us.
And to my friend I said: “Sure, he’s cute, but what good is cute if he lacks initiative?This unspoken implication breeds negativity and desperation, which is toxic.And low self-esteem never attracted good into anyone’s life.This creates an opportunity to get clear on what you really—in your heart—expect from yourself.”It seems to me like when you learn to expect better from yourself, you also learn to expect better from each other.I’ve made peace with the fact that those friends who care about me will almost always have something to say about my dating life, and as long as those comments aren’t rooted in negativity, they will always be welcomed.
But in most cases, being “too picky” when deciding whom to date does not have to mean you’re a princess with her nose in the air waiting for her Prince Charming.